Perfect Wedding vs. Authentic Wedding

cropped-wedding-canoe.jpgAs a MN Wedding Officant I can look through a unique lens. I have a “closer than front row seat” at the most beautiful weddings in Minnesota. To me, perfect weddings are found in the “heart” of the wedding, the ceremony.

“I don’t like people who have never fallen or stumbled. Their virtue is lifeless and it isn’t of much value. Life hasn’t revealed it’s beauty to them.” -Boris Pasternak, Writer

What if I could promise that you have a perfect wedding ceremony?

When I talk with couples years after their weddings the only thing that mattered to them was how they felt at that moment that they said their vows. To them, whoever they are, they all remember how they felt to be there, assembled with their families and friends making the biggest step of their lives thus far.

It was the emotion and the depth of feeling during the experience that left a lasting impression. Memories of the details may fade but the feelings remain.

“If you haven’t found something strange during the day, it hasn’t been much of a day.” -J.A. Wheeler , Physicist

So, after planning and performing hundreds and hundreds of wedding ceremonies as a MN Wedding Officiant since 2001 my advice for you is this: savor each moment as a treasured memory to keep and hold–to bring you joy and laughter as the years go by. May you also have “an unscripted moment” and a story to share with a smile and a laugh.

(Resources cited: Don’t Forget to Sing in the Lifeboats by Kathryn & Ross Petras, Workman Publishing)